Cupid Shot Me

A Valentine Lovers Series

B and T

We are in the month of love and if you don’t know that the valentine packages here and there will tell you. So, do you have a special someone you intend to spend valentine’s day with?
B: Haha, yes, valentine is really in the air and yes, I do have someone I would celebrate with.
Can you tell us a bit about this person? How did you two meet?
B: Well, it goes back a few years actually. We had few mutual friends because we had similar friendship circles but never really had interactions. Then, one day I replied to his Instagram story and that was how our friendship began.
Instagram has been helping the relationship industry for a long time.
B: It really has.
When did you start seeing him in a different light? In other words, when did you start catching feelings?
B: This might sound funny but I didn’t realize it till he told me how he felt about me. I never noticed I had a crush on him right from the start because I never thought we would see each other in that light. I was oblivious of my feelings for him. It wasn’t until I was looking back and was like okay.
The girls in romance novels always seem to be oblivious of the guy’s feelings so this is romance novel material.
B: I was a wattpad fan way back so you could imagine my surprise at the whole thing.
I like to think that love is a much bigger thing than just the butterflies even though it is a part of the thrill. I’m gonna go ahead and ask when you knew he loved you? Was there like a grand gesture or a little thing that convinced you of his love for you?
B: Yeah, like you said love is not just the feeling or butterflies. It is about intentionality as well. When we started dating, he was intentional about the whole thing. Before he asked me out, he spoke to older people who he looked up to about the relationship and asked for advice and all that. It was a really sweet thing and of course that’s just one of the many things he does.
He is such a gentleman.
B: Don’t make his head swell please (laughs)
Okay I won’t. I believe you love him and I am sure you know love is proven through actions. So, what is the nicest thing you’ve done for him?
B: Well, before him I wasn’t really the gifting type or I hadn’t gotten to that phase yet. But now I find myself wanting to get him anything he needs even before he knows he needs it. One of my favorite things to do is surprise him with gifts I know he will love and actually enjoy. Is that the nicest thing I have done for him? I do not know; he will be a better judge of that(laughs) but I know he still uses most of the gifts till today.
Awwn, talk about intentionality! Can you tell us about one of the surprises?
B: Well, last Valentine’s Day actually. He had told me in passing about a particular page that sells nice stationary months prior and I took note of it. When Valentine’s Day was getting close, I reached out to them and got him a journal and a planner from the page. He had spoken about needing a journal and wanting to plan his time better.
My heart wants to explode. We love a thoughtful queen.
B: He deserves it.
How has the relationship been so far?
B: We have been dating for almost two years now and we have been doing our best to keep the spark alive. Communication is really a key component in our relationship and understanding as well. We are both after each other’s growth in all areas; mentally, physically, spiritually and we do what we can to help each other. Even though everything might not be rosy and all about a fairytale fantasy, my relationship with him has had one of my happiest moments and I can’t wait to create more memories with him.
Okay, dear future boyfriend, you need to hurry up and get here.
B: (laughs) He is coming, don’t worry. They always show up when you least expect it.
Finally, is there anything you have learnt in the relationship that you would like to share with the readers?
B: Hmm, that’s a deep one. One thing I have learnt is love is not just a feeling or butterflies like you said but it is a decision you make to wake up every day and choose to love that person amidst their flaws, their annoying antics and everything in between (laughs). Intentionality goes hand in hand with constant communication and reassurance. Know your partner’s love languages and incorporate that into the relationship. It won’t be easy but as long as both of you are on the same page and have the same energy towards the relationship, you definitely got it.
Gosh, you are brilliant woman B. Thank you taking out time to speak to us. We wish you and boo a happy valentine’s day.
B: Thank you for having me. It was a real pleasure.

Bola and John
Valentine’s day is here again and I am assuming there’s a special someone you intend to spend the day with, right?
Bola: Well, if spending the day over the phone counts, then yes.
The struggles of long distances, sorry about that.
Bukky: Thank you.
Can tell us more about this person? How did you two meet?
Bola: Well, he is really an amazing person, and I am always so grateful to God for making our paths cross. We met during the lockdown, online. At the time, he was running a WhatsApp TV, and we sort of had a conversation where he wanted me to teach him a new language. I’ve not taught him anything till today(laughs) We started talking, and discovered that we actually enjoyed talking to each other. We stayed as friends throughout that period, and made it official sometime in February, 2021.
Oooh, I hear anniversary bells ringing
Bola: Yes, yes (laughs)
You guys started off as friends which is a great thing by the way. When did you start seeing him as anything other than a friend?
Bola: Well, I’m not sure of when exactly, but I know that as at November 2020, I knew I was in love with him already.
I stan a woman who knows what she wants
Bola: (laughs)
I am sure the love was reciprocated but how did you know he loved you? Did he run to the airport to stop you from fleeing town, classic romcom move or did he write you a poem. When did you become convinced of his love for you?
Bola: When a man becomes completely smitten by the sight of you, it will be obvious in every way possible. I’m not sure of what it was exactly, but I’m sure it had to do in the lines of him carrying my matter on his head, literally. I could be having a bad day, and he’s there sending funny pictures to make me feel better. It’s really just little things like that for me.
The little things do make up the big things. Since he carries your matter on his head, it is only right that you carry his matter on your head. After all relationships are about giving and taking. So, what is the nicest thing you’ve done for him?
Bola: Naturally, I’m a nice person, so deciding on just one thing will be quite hard. However, I think it has to be the time when he was dealing with his final year project in school, and I tried my best to go all out in supporting him, and helping him with it.
Acts of service!
Bola: Yes, yes. Acts of Service. That is one love language he loves, and I understand it really well.
How has the relationship been so far?
Bukky: Truthfully, it hasn’t been so easy. We have our differences and these differences sometimes cause disagreements between us but one thing I will always respect him for, is the fact that he always makes intentional efforts for us to come to an agreement.
Best believe we love intentional men. How have you both been handling the distance cos let’s face it long distance relationships are not the easiest?
Bola: Long distance is not easy oh, it’s not easy at all. But hmm, we try our best. Communication is definitely the key factor, if there’s something going on that either of us are not comfortable with, we talk about it, no matter how difficult it is. Spending time together online also helps a lot. We get on video calls, while going through our individual activities, yet steal glances at each other (laughs) We also recommend movies to each other to watch and on some days, we watch them together online. But, I think the major thing is that, before we started the relationship, we had a discussion and we both knew what we wanted, so it’s easier for us to work together, based on what we want.
This is so amazing; I’m jotting this down for our long-distance family members. Is there anything you have learnt from being with him that you would like to share?
Bola: I’ve learnt a lot from being with him. The major one is that, if there is no personal growth among two people in a relationship, that relationship should not exist. Another thing is that, no matter who you are or how many bad experiences you have had, when you are with the right person, things become easier for you, you will not have to force anything.
Thanks for speaking to us. Herstory wishes you and boo a happy valentine’s day.
Bola: You are welcome and thank you.

Jade and Seyi
Do you have someone special you intend to spend Valentines with?
Jade: Well, I don’t exactly have plans for that day but I’ll definitely send my partner gifts.
So, there’s a partner. Can you tell us more about this person? How did you two meet?
Jade: (laughs) There is. We met on twitter. We were mutuals but I barely even recognized his handle. He replied my fleet one day and the rest is history
It’s safe to say you guys started as friends?
Jade: Yeah, we could say that. It was pretty obvious we were attracted to each other from the beginning though.
It means you started catching feelings when he replied to your tweet?
Jade: (Laughs) No. After we spoke for a while.
Okay the conversations started creating butterflies in the stomach. We love to see it.
Janet: (laughs)
Was there an exact moment where you knew without doubt that he loves you?
Jade: Hmm. I really cannot say but I know he does his best to make me feel loved. If we were to pick an exact time though, it’ll probably be when he made this playlist of beautiful songs we listened to on one of our dates. I listen to that playlist almost every day.
The playlist kind of love, ahh I want. God when?
Jade: (Laughs) Please.
What do you think is the nicest thing you have done for him?
Jade: Well, probably sending him food at work.
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. I see you Queen.
Jade: (laughs) I try. Can’t wait to have plenty money so I can spoil him.
How has the relationship been so far?
Jade: It’s been awesome, I think I’ve learnt to communicate better.
Is there anything you’ve learnt from being with him that you would like to share?
Jade: Yes, like I said earlier. I think I’m better at communicating how I feel.
Thank you for speaking to us. Herstory wishes you and boo a happy valentine’s day.
Jade: Thank you and you’re welcome.

Aisha and Ibrahim

Do you have somebody you would like to spend Valentines with?
Aisha: Yes, I do. I absolutely do.
Ah ahn this energy. Can you tell us about this person? How did you two meet?
Aisha: So, he is my boyfriend. We met when we were doing our house job in Ilorin. I had just moved to Ilorin and I was looking for a poetry community, a mutual friend shared his contact with me.
So, you are both poets that means you wake up to poems written about you every day.
Aisha: I wish I did because he claims to have officially retired from the poetry business but I’m secretly holding on to the hope that one day, I’d get a collection.
I trust you will. When did you start seeing him as more than a poetry fellow?
Aisha: I honestly cannot say because we were such close friends and it’s hard sometimes to delineate between that and love but I think it has to be when he was leaving the house officer’s quarters, he finished house job before me, and I hid in the toilet and cried. Omo! That’s when I knew village people had gotten me.
I believe the village people got him too so when did you know village people had gotten to him? Was there something that he did like a grand gesture or was it a little thing he did that meant so much to you?
Aisha: (laughs) He has always been so kind and patient with me. He was always doing nice things like dropping me off at work, feeding me, listening to me, making me happy. So, I’d say it was a series of little things
Smart guy. When village people get you, they make you want to do so much for these men so in your opinion what is the nicest thing you have done for him?
Aisha: He has his own version of nicest thing but he’s a huuugggeee marvel fan, like borderline obsessed. There was a day after watching a new release in the cinema, he called me so excited. I remember he was talking for about 5 minutes straight and how there was a twist at the end and how people who read the comics knew about it. And how he’d like to read the comics but there are so much and he won’t know where to start. So, for his birthday, I got a tab and downloaded over 500GB of comics for him. I was so excited. But he says, it’s the time I got him the complete Harry Potter paperback. He’s a Potterhead too.
Awwwn Village people really got you. How has the relationship been so far?
Aisha: Amazing really. He makes me sooo happy and I am very content with the relationship…
Is there anything you’ve learnt from the relationship that you would like to share with us?
Aisha: I think I’ve learnt that when you find your person, everything is easy. Even when you have to change bits of you to accommodate them, it happens so naturally and fluidly.
Thank you for speaking to us. Herstory wishes you and boo a happy valentine’s day.
Aisha: You are welcome.

Becky and The Man Behind the Camera
Do you have a special person you intend to spend the valentines with?
Becky: I sure do and it feels pretty good.
Can you tell us about this person? How did you two meet?
Becky: We met at the bank and I was pretty rude to him. You know what happens at the bank now. So, I was rude to him and he was really calm, I guess I took advantage of that. Anyways I met him the second time in church and of course I was on my best behaviour (laughs). Then I met him on the street again and I was like okay; the third time and I think number three means it is a sign. So, we kicked off from there.
The third time is a charm they say and clearly, he has charmed you. When did you know, you were attracted to him?
Becky: Honestly, it was the sixth month. Since we were just talking and even then, he didn’t show any sign so I thought to myself girlll. But after a year actually he knew he would lose me because according to him I am in high demand (laughs)
What did he do that made you feel like he was really into you? Was it a grand gesture or a little thing that meant the world to you?
Becky: When a guy is really into you, you just know. He was always there aside the calls, the texts and the little gifts. He is always there at my slightest discomfort. He makes it a big deal and I love that because it is one of my love languages.
In your opinion, what is the nicest thing you have done for him?
Becky: I don’t know but I would say being a shoulder to cry on. Men also cry, I didn’t know that till I started this journey with him and several times I have come through for him and I like that I am there for him. He is also there for me so it is reciprocal.
You have created a space for him to be vulnerable and that is super nice. Is there anything you have learnt from the relationship that you would like to share with us?
Becky: Too many things, relationships teach you so much but the one I would like to share is that when you know that someone has been prepared for you from God, make sure God stays at the center. This might sound cliché; oh we’ve been hearing it but to tell you the truth; it is what keeps us going. There are times I feel like what are we doing. There are good days and bad days but then when we go back to the source, we find meaning again. I think that’s one part I will never really get over.
Thank you for speaking to us. Herstory wishes you and boo a happy valentine’s day.
Becky: Thanks.